It is so easy to become sidetracked and lose focus on your goals. Working for yourself takes more then just discipline, it takes the right attitude. Don't let yourself get caught up in all the "what if's", "buts", or "maybe's". We can easily let someone decide our future for us when we give in to these words. How many times has someone talked you out of what you want? Here is an example of what I mean.
Julie is wanting to go back to school to become a docter but she wants kids also. She is married and is 33 years old already and doesn't want to have kids after age 36. She is aware that it will take hard work and many years of studying to become a docter. She is also aware that being a mother takes a lot of work also. She is willing to sacrifice anything to make both work. She talks it over with her husband and he gets excited to support her decision but is concerned about it. Julie decides to sit down, put together some goals and share it with her family & friends for further support. While discussing it with her sister, her sister asks why she would want to do both. Julie explains her determination but was followed with, well...What if after having the baby you realize it needs more attention then planned? Julie says well then I would ajust my schedule. So then her sister says, well what if you do that but your schedule doesn't work with baby or there are no classes at night? Julie then explains that she would then go part time and take more the following semester. Well then her sister says...what if you have twins or triplets? What if one gets sick? What if after spending all that money to become a good docter and you fail because you have kids and you start to blame them?... This is where Julie decides not go back to school and have her kids first because she didn't want to miss her chance to have them and gave up the opportunity to go back to school.
What you think you can do, you can. What you think you can't, you can't. What you become is up to you, so do yourself a favor and don't listen to anything less then what kind of person you truely can become when you let go of your fears! Dream Big, dream often!!!
Thursday, July 28, 2011
Monday, May 30, 2011
Relationships..Understanding the problem
Relationships take work and most of us spend more time trying to avoid them for the wrong reasons. Relationships don't dry out and end because that person lacks ethic or because they changed, they simply end because we lack understanding. We spend so much time placing blame; and the truth is, that we were never really taught what healthy love really is or how to achieve it. We all make mistakes, and we all have a past, so why do we keep making the same mistakes. The answer is obvious; "bad habits" are the reason, but the question is, how do we change that? Take some time to understand what went wrong, find the roots to the problem, and if you realize you did something wrong, apologize immediately.
Here is a list of things you need to be careful not to do:
Don't Force intimacy - respect and understand that even though you have desired needs, so does your mate. There may be a very good reason why they are not being as intimate so don't presume you know what they need. The best way to handle this issue is ask and comfort.
Do NOT expect your mate to read your mind - even though you think you know each other very well, if you had a bad day, say so, don't expect for your mate to figure it out and just give you a break. They too may have had a bad day, furthermore, they may not have their mighty "psychic" cap on.
Do Not assume you are always right. Don't assume anything at all -Ask first. It works. There may be a good reason why, so before you go all crazy and cause yourself more stress then what it worth, ask.
Do not take your mate for granted - relationships become so comfortable that sometimes we settle into habits. When you begin to view your mate as the babysitter or the dishwasher then it is time to change chores.
Do not become so dependant on your mate - this can lead to many problems.
Take responsibility for your own actions, and stop playing the blame game. Attract more positive thoughts to yourself, and abandon all the negative. Take charge of your own happiness and challenge yourself to do better everyday.
We live and we learn, when you fail try to learn from it so you don't make the same mistakes again. Take some time to comprehend what went wrong before starting something new. The definition of insanity is doing the same things and expecting the same results; so find the root, and stop the problem from repeating itself.
-Kelly Kortright
Here is a list of things you need to be careful not to do:
Don't Force intimacy - respect and understand that even though you have desired needs, so does your mate. There may be a very good reason why they are not being as intimate so don't presume you know what they need. The best way to handle this issue is ask and comfort.
Do NOT expect your mate to read your mind - even though you think you know each other very well, if you had a bad day, say so, don't expect for your mate to figure it out and just give you a break. They too may have had a bad day, furthermore, they may not have their mighty "psychic" cap on.
Do Not assume you are always right. Don't assume anything at all -Ask first. It works. There may be a good reason why, so before you go all crazy and cause yourself more stress then what it worth, ask.
Do not take your mate for granted - relationships become so comfortable that sometimes we settle into habits. When you begin to view your mate as the babysitter or the dishwasher then it is time to change chores.
Do not become so dependant on your mate - this can lead to many problems.
Take responsibility for your own actions, and stop playing the blame game. Attract more positive thoughts to yourself, and abandon all the negative. Take charge of your own happiness and challenge yourself to do better everyday.
We live and we learn, when you fail try to learn from it so you don't make the same mistakes again. Take some time to comprehend what went wrong before starting something new. The definition of insanity is doing the same things and expecting the same results; so find the root, and stop the problem from repeating itself.
-Kelly Kortright
Friday, April 15, 2011
Sunday, March 6, 2011
Wednesday, February 9, 2011
Monday, January 24, 2011
Remove that Band-aid!!
We live a constant every day battle with ourselfs. Your mentality shapes your reality so why do we run when things seem to get to tough to handle? Why do we think we can patch things up by putting a band-aid over it? I want you to think about this for a minute. What is the first thing you think about when you had a very stressful week? What is the first thing on your mind when your kids are driving you insane? What is your answer to weight gain?
Let me help you to your obvious answers. You think, I need a vacation, I need a babysitter, I need some more sleep, I need a diet. Am I close, did I hit the bullseye!
Do you really think that by taking a vacation that the stress will disappear when you get home or that your kids will behave after a night out with the girls? Do you think that a diet is a permanent solution to weight gain or that by taking a bunch of naps things are going to fix themselves? What are you thinking!!! Get real. It doesn't happen that way, however, we like to think that it does.
Does it make things easier? Yes it does, for the time being, but what happens when reality sets in. What is your solution then, to take another vacation?
A band-aid will not work.
First....Stop blaming others and be responsible for your own actions. Forgive yourself no one is perfect. We live to learn so......Take action. When we can control what we think we control our reality. Break free of bad habits. Step out of your comfort zone.
Challenge yourself to try a new heathier recipe if your overweight. Talk to your kids, spend more time with them. Consider their concerns, don't be so quick to misjudge them by their age. Don't be so quick to convince yourself that it can not be done. You are what you think you are, and..... You can do what you think you are cabaple of. Think outside the box, and make it your life.
A comfort Zone is what is known to you, its what you are used to. They are unfamiliar to you for a purpose. If you won't step out of those boundaries then it will take you that much longer and that much more difficult to get beyond those challenges. Perhaps it is the way you think, so change the way you think and you'll never have to put a band-aid on anything. It is important you understand that what you are doing now isn't working and it isn't going to change by covering it with a band-aid. You know the meaning for insanity right? Insanity is doing the same thing over and over and expecting different results. Get rid of the band-aid and step into your reality!! Risks are meant to be taken. So you may get hurt a little but you can't keep yourself covered with a band-aid forever. Now is the time to remove it!
Let me help you to your obvious answers. You think, I need a vacation, I need a babysitter, I need some more sleep, I need a diet. Am I close, did I hit the bullseye!
Do you really think that by taking a vacation that the stress will disappear when you get home or that your kids will behave after a night out with the girls? Do you think that a diet is a permanent solution to weight gain or that by taking a bunch of naps things are going to fix themselves? What are you thinking!!! Get real. It doesn't happen that way, however, we like to think that it does.
Does it make things easier? Yes it does, for the time being, but what happens when reality sets in. What is your solution then, to take another vacation?
A band-aid will not work.
First....Stop blaming others and be responsible for your own actions. Forgive yourself no one is perfect. We live to learn so......Take action. When we can control what we think we control our reality. Break free of bad habits. Step out of your comfort zone.
Challenge yourself to try a new heathier recipe if your overweight. Talk to your kids, spend more time with them. Consider their concerns, don't be so quick to misjudge them by their age. Don't be so quick to convince yourself that it can not be done. You are what you think you are, and..... You can do what you think you are cabaple of. Think outside the box, and make it your life.
A comfort Zone is what is known to you, its what you are used to. They are unfamiliar to you for a purpose. If you won't step out of those boundaries then it will take you that much longer and that much more difficult to get beyond those challenges. Perhaps it is the way you think, so change the way you think and you'll never have to put a band-aid on anything. It is important you understand that what you are doing now isn't working and it isn't going to change by covering it with a band-aid. You know the meaning for insanity right? Insanity is doing the same thing over and over and expecting different results. Get rid of the band-aid and step into your reality!! Risks are meant to be taken. So you may get hurt a little but you can't keep yourself covered with a band-aid forever. Now is the time to remove it!
Thursday, January 13, 2011
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